Wednesday, February 13, 2008

HAPPY 101th BIRTHDAY!

Hattie Rogers Broadus is 101 years old today! This picture was taken in 2002.

My grandmother Winnie Chatman Mizell, who died in 1982 at age 76, was her first cousin and friend. When MawMaw Winnie was in a nursing home in Gulfport, Hattie, who was older than she, would ride her bike to visit.

When my parents moved to Gulfport after their marriage, Hattie helped them move many times from apartment to apartment, as they didn't have a car. After Daddy died in 1992, Hattie welcomed me into her home where I stayed as we took care of getting Daddy's house ready to sell. Staying there made me feel "mothered" or "grandmothered" again. She's an amazingly strong Christian woman with an admirably positive attitude in life.

This is the story she told me about when she had smallpox as a young adult:

“Tell me again your job at the Edgewater Gulf Hotel,” I asked, hoping to put together more pieces of the life of my extraordinary cousin, Hattie Broadus. She was my grandmother’s first cousin and, since my grandmother died over twenty years ago, my adopted grandmother. At 100 years old, she still stands tall at almost six feet although she now uses a tri-wheel walker for balance.

“In the 1930s, I was a cashier at the Edgewater Gulf Hotel on the beach in Biloxi. I was already dating Maxie, who was away at college in Texas.” Hattie continued the story for my sake. Without my prodding, she would have preferred asking me about my family and my life or playing a game of gin rummy.

I remembered the huge white structure with the sprawling green lawn and said, “How I wish they hadn’t torn down the Edgewater!”

In sharp detail, Hattie continued the story, “Employees were allowed to live in the hotel during tourist season. One day at work, I suddenly developed a raging fever. The doctor at the hotel told me to go home, so I drove myself the forty miles to the country town of Perkinston. As I drove, I got sicker and sicker, but finally reached the small doctor’s office. I forced myself to get out of the car and enter. The nurse looked at me and quickly left the room. I heard her whispering to the doctor.”

Hattie leaned back in her mahogany rocker and said, “When she returned, nurse stammered, ‘get back in your car and wait for Dr. James.’ Dr. James quickly came out to the car, took one look at me, and said, ‘Hattie, you have smallpox. Go home!"

“What happened then?” I was stunned. I could remember my grandmother complaining that, because Hattie had never been sick in her life, she had no sympathy for those who suffered. (Of course, my grandmother could never get all the sympathy she wanted from anyone!)

“I went to my parents’ home and shut myself in my room. I wouldn’t let Mama come in, so she left my food at the door. Sixty or seventy people saw me before I was diagnosed, but all were vaccinated and did not get sick. My hands swelled to twice their size, and I worried about scarring. People came to my window to see me.” Hattie chuckled and said, “I worried that Maxie’s sisters would write and tell him that I was scarred, but, when it was over, I was surprised to see that I didn’t have any scars. Maxie and I were married about two years later.”

I wondered if surviving smallpox had made her strong or if she survived smallpox because of her strength. Either way, Hattie Broadus is one tough lady.

P.S. I had written this post in February 18, 2008--Hattie's 101th birthday. On April 15, 2009, Hattie went to be with Jesus. About a week before, Ralph and I visited with her. She had been asking her minister why she was still here. She held my hand and said these most precious words to me: "I'm so glad we still love each other."

BEAUTY FOR ASHES


WARNING: MEMORIES REFRAMED! To those who were part of my past, my memories may surprise you. They have been reframed in light of what I now know about God—that He formed me in my mother’s womb and was always with me, working for my good and to answer my little-girl prayers. They have been reframed with God in the picture. They have been reframed against the backdrop of God’s attributes—who He is.

In one of her Bible studies, Beth Moore said, “You have not gotten this far in your journey with God without His footprints planted all over your path, and without His fingerprints all over the doorknobs of your life.” God was present “then and there”. He can and will heal the pain of our difficult memories.

Therefore, although my stories are absolutely factual, I cannot help but see them in the light of the work that Jesus has done in my life. Therefore, ashes may appear as beauty; mourning may appear as joy; the spirit of heaviness as gladness. According to Isaiah 61, the good news Jesus came to bring included “binding up the brokenhearted”, giving “beauty for ashes," joy for mourning" and the “garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.”
Photo: Spring tulips at Duke Gardens 2005

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

COURAGE

The doctor struggled to look his patient straight in the eyes as he quietly said, “I am afraid that you are in the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease.”

My mother-in-law stammered, “Are you sure?”

“Well, I am sure that you have it, but Alzheimer’s can only be definitively diagnosed by autopsy.”

“Well, that’s a little premature!” she quipped. She had obviously not lost her quick tongue and sharp sense of humor. Her son and the doctor both laughed.
Over the next few years, she entertained us by making jokes about her memory lapses. She cackled even louder when she caught one of her baby boomer children in their own senior moments.

In my youth, courage was not at the top of my “wish list”. The need for courage inferred that circumstances would arise requiring it. I thought that that if I mastered the “how-to” of being a Christian, all of my circumstances would be perfect, calm and good-- certainly not such that required courage. As I watched this courageous woman face her frightening future, I began to pray for courage in my own life.

I had taken to heart Psalm 71:18: “Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, O God, til I declare your power to the next generation, your might to all who are to come.” I thought of mentoring and teaching as ways to transmit knowledge of the Lord’s faithfulness to the next generation. My mother-in-law’s unexpected modeling of courage made me wonder, are values taught or caught? What better way to declare the Lord’s power to the next generation than to face with courage the challenges that life brings.